09 Oct 09
7:14 PM
This is a very good article. read it. Those who are still single may learn something from here.... Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage.... DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage! , you wi ll notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling .
No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choiceLabels: Did I marry the right person?
23 Sep 09
5:44 AM
When is the last time you see them smiling so happily? =)
family photo...
Her smile jus melts my heart~I jus love you both so much...
Hope that granny and grandpa enjoyed the night.. =)
Labels: Happy birthday ah ma
23 Sep 09
11:57 PM
I'm jus overjoyed by the words of my wedding couple on Sunday..!! Mr & Mrs Goh, Mr & Mrs Chua and Mr & Mrs Tan..thank you very much for the patience that you have with me for all these while of coordination for your wedding. Being a newbie in selling and coordinating weddings.. I realli did my very best to learn and pick up as fast as possible.. upon hearing my couple thanking me for the help all these while and telling me that i've done a gd job.. im jus so touched and felt a sense of satisfaction in it.. not onli thanking me but also showed their appreciation by givin me a ang bao.. it's not the amt that matters but is the thought that counts. once again, thank you very much! these gave me a motivation to work and also looking forward to see more of that... =) That also mus depends on other colleagues in the catering dept to work together and make not onli weddings but all event successful... =) thanks to all that have helped in all those events.. also mus thank JW and RP for the patience they have for me.. as I was new and know nothing abt the procedure.. they have to teach me frm the start and be patient with me.. I hope i can do better... and realli can be a help to them..but who noes.. maybe after the busy months.. boss will take me out frm weddings again...?? well, shall see how it goes...starting my course soon.. hopefully i can pass all the modules smoothly.. Labels: jiayou jiayou jiayou.. ...
15 Sep 09
12:10 AM
Its been so long since i last blogged..Well, recently has been real busy with work.. weddings, paperwork, meetings.. etc.. making me so tired and restless.. the worst is not all these that realli makes me so sick and tired of the job, it's the environment and the people around me, making things so difficult work with..I realli do not understand how these ppl work their life thru in this kind of environment. i can no longer differeniate who is real or who is fake.. and i realli do not wish to know anymore. I jus wan to do what im supposed to do and finish my studies asap.. my class is starting in 2 weeks time and im so lost.. suddenly, i jus feel lost with what im doing or rather, i do not know what i've chosen is right.. very soon, i will have no time for shopping, drinking, partying and even meeting dear dear.. and i guess he does not have time for me too as he is striving and working very hard for his last yr in NTU.. all the best for you my love~ morale support ok? .. =)
24 Jun 09
7:28 PM
06 Jun 09
3:08 AM
It has been days.. ..Still in the mist of recovering.. ..these few days i have been downing myself with work..not to let myself to have time to think of anything.. Well, some progress these few days.. but i broke my 'rules' today.. =(CRIES.. i dun wan to regret in life.. but there are just so much that we can do..still at work now.. and yes.. WORK... haiz.. =\ need a drink badly.. guess i will go over to have some drinkS.. .. =)next week will be a more hectic week.. hopefully by then everything will be gone.. gone by the wind.. ... ... ...Labels: 无能为力.. ..
03 June 09
6:51 PM
Thou i dun say much or express myself much infront of you..but.. there are so much unbearable, inexpressible & unspeakable pain that im having.. you've brought me to the heaven and hell at the same time.. which i cant take it anymore.. I do realli hope this will be gone once and for all..I realli do not wan to suffer all these unnecessary unhappiness...I wan to be happy like before.. so i beg you.. please do not come into my life again...i just need some time.. some time to recover myself.. some time to forget about the incident..some time to forget you.......right now.. i just wan to drown myself with work.. work.. and work...hope by keeping myself busy.. i can get by this as soon as possible.. so.. please get out of my life!!! thank you very much...I wan my long break soon... very soon please... counting down.. 2 months... ... ... Labels: inexpressible, unbearable, unspeakable pain..
When is the last time you see them smiling so happily? =)
family photo...
Her smile jus melts my heart~